A friend recently told me that her mother in law had fulfilled a long held dream on their recent trip to Goa. Could I guess what it was? Surely she was too old for adventure sports! Could she have attempted parasailing or water skiing? As my mind churned with possibilities, Sonali cleared the mystery. Her … Continue reading Chase your dreams…
The alarm goes off at six a.m. I get out of bed, wash my hands, and head towards the children’s bedroom. The girls are awake. I brush my younger daughter’s teeth and leave them to get ready as I help the cook with the tiffins and breakfast; omelettes today. She brings them out while I … Continue reading So what do you do all day?
One year ago, on the night of October 16, 2017, Alyssa Milano sent out a tweet with a simple message: If you’ve ever been sexually assaulted, reply to this message with the words MeToo. She woke up the next morning to fifty-five thousand replies. #MeToo took on a life of its own, yet it had … Continue reading True Lies, Bollywood and #MeToo
It was a dream wedding. The air was thick with excitement, but not everyone was having a good time. The bride’s sister, upon being repeatedly ticked off by her mother for gaining weight, ran away just before the bride and groom exchanged garlands, triggering a crisis within the wedding party. She was found later that … Continue reading Body Shaming and the F Word
There was an advertisement I came across a while ago, which still rankles. It started by showing a woman serving her family dinner. To clarify: around six family members were seated, eating, while this lady, along with the help, served them. While serving, she was being taunted and criticised by her husband, mother-in-law and others, possibly brother … Continue reading Gender Conditioning in India
Before there was Sex in the City, there was crime in the city. The streets of New York were a dangerous place in the 70’s and 80s. Muggings were routine and Crack was King. Car burglaries were extremely common, and signs everywhere warned you to look after your belongings, hold on to your handbags tight, … Continue reading Abortion in the time of Drumpf
THE day my daughter said to me, “Mama, I want to be light,” was the day any lingering subconscious preferences I may have had towards lighter skin, went out the window. At first I didn’t understand what she meant. Then she placed her arm on mine, showed me the difference in our skin colour. “I … Continue reading Throw away those fairness creams!
ON January 21, 2017, the day after Trump's inauguration, tens of thousands of women got together for a march in Washington D.C. to send a message to the new administration that women were not going to tolerate their rights being trampled on. Women in other parts of the world came out on the streets … Continue reading Female Power
My cousin had just given birth to a boy, and there was a flurry of excitement at my grandmother’s house. Aunts rushed over to decide what would be an appropriate gift for the baby. The jeweller stopped by with a selection of gold chains, and budgets were discussed as all pondered over how much they … Continue reading Raise your son to be a feminist
“No one over the age of 40 should wear a mini-skirt,” self-proclaimed fashionistas mock me through their blogs, “Unless you want to look like mutton dressed as lamb.” I read the words, horrified that a fashion blog is comparing me to a piece of meat. On further reading I learn that by definition a mini falls … Continue reading Legs for Days